<img src=“http://www.rpgclassics.com/staff/tenchimaru/td.gif”> Me neither.
NB I would actually tell you cousin to meet the guy her parent’s have arranged. Because you never know he might just turn out to be a really nice guy, that she would actually like.
However he turns out to be a right arse, then you step up with the big verbal NO!
Feel free to say no!
Man… An arranged marriage is the #1 way to screw up someones life…
Wish you all luck…
I can tell you this, though: Love is not a reason to get married. It’s a nice feeling and all, but when you’ve got two kids and two incomes, your moral and social values are far more important than birds tweeting when you look in your partner’s eyes. When you come right down to it, the fact that you fall for someone isn’t really a much better reason to marry them than the fact that the families want it to happen. That’s why arranged marriages (at least the ones I know of) work. Although some cultures (like India) do tend to treat marriages as family mergers, the ones I know of center more around people using their connections to find someone who’s as much to the liking of the other as possible, and letting them decide. It’s a lot less painful than hanging out at bars hoping to meet people.
Originally posted by Innocence
Like the divorce rate isn’t high enough already, we need to start forcing marriages that, even if the people are compatible, will probably end up in divorce because the feelings of resentment towards the parties forcing the marriage will be expressed on the mate.
Originally posted by RoguePaladinTrian
From what I understand, though, they have a lower divorce rate than marriages by choice.
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I’ve heard the same thing, Trian. I think it’s because in those cultures, divorce just isn’t really an option unless something goes REALLY wrong. Here, however, divorces are like returning an item you don’t want anymore before the warrenty runs out. Very sad.
Anyways, I hope things work out, 'Blade. You seem a good chap, so I wish you and your family the best in working things through.
Originally posted by Seawolf
[b]I’ve heard the same thing, Trian. I think it’s because in those cultures, divorce just isn’t really an option unless something goes REALLY wrong. Here, however, divorces are like returning an item you don’t want anymore before the warrenty runs out. Very sad.Anyways, I hope things work out, 'Blade. You seem a good chap, so I wish you and your family the best in working things through. [/b]
My understanding also was that divorce tends to be more taboo in societies that have arranged marriages. While this can lead to lead to situations where one or both of the couple are miserable, it also can lead to putting effort into making a relationship work, which in turn develops into an incredibly strong bond between them.
Also, I echo the sentiments in Seawolf’s post.
MAN it shows how some of you REALLY haven’t dated.
Originally posted by Sinistral
MAN it shows how some of you REALLY haven’t dated.
HEY! That doesn’t mean we’re not WORKING on it 
Originally posted by Sinistral
MAN it shows how some of you REALLY haven’t dated.
Because I have time between school and 2 jobs, right?
I date my computer i give it flowers and candy on our dates, and then it lets me play games and talk online yahoo.
Originally posted by ahkeeyuu
Because I have time between school and 2 jobs, right?
<img src=“http://www.rpgclassics.com/staff/tenchimaru/td.gif”> Only the night matters <_<
is dating
Ha!
is killed by a mod of angry forumers p:unch:: :enguard: :mwahaha: :ulty:
Blech, arranged :\
Not all relationships require the amount of energy and effort (and stress) as another. Some are easy and laid back, others are difficult to maintain.
Originally posted by Sinistral
MAN it shows how some of you REALLY haven’t dated.
Hey, I HAD a girlfriend. The relationship was way too one sided (I showered her with gifts and dinner and never even got me a card on my birthday). She also graduated before me (she was one year older), so the relationship kinda broke off after that. Oh, see didn’t want to spend the money to go to my senior prom either. I still had fun though with another childhood friend of mine.
Originally posted by Tenchimaru_Draconis
<img src=“http://www.rpgclassics.com/staff/tenchimaru/td.gif”> Only the night matters <_<
I work at night.
Originally posted by ahkeeyuu
I work at night.
Then apparently you matter and poor schmucks like me who slave away in the daytime don’t mean squat.
Originally posted by Sinistral
Where do you live?!
I live in Canada, my cousin is in Bangladesh.
This arranged marriage has nothing to do with religion.
My cousin is crying because she already has a boyfriend, but her parents don’t like him. Apparently he dropped out of college and only has a high school diploma.
And I have no clue who the groom is.