<a href=“http://here-now.org/shows/2005/02/20050223_13.asp”>The topic of our talk.</a>
<a href=“http://www.boston.com/news/local/massachusetts/articles/2005/02/28/earlier_sexual_incident_alleged/”>And another article that includes a similar episode two days prior.</a>
We’re starting sexual morality in class today, and this was the brunt of our discussion. We talked about whether it was right or wrong, and several social factors about how we viewed it. Several people called it “sick” and “inappropriate” but I forget their exact reasoning.
I’m asking what y’all think about this subject, teenage sexual activity in general, and/or how the media and society influences our thoughts towards sex.
As for me, I thought it was wrong because they were doing it for the instant gratification part of oral sex, and not for anything to do with relationships (I am firmly against sex if you’re not in a serious relationship). I don’t condemn them, however, as it was only oral sex, but it’s still a pretty serious thing in my mind because they essentially used the girl and gave nothing in return. Whether it was consensual or not, the girl was used in this. Also, when I asked if it were turned around (6 girls propositioning a guy), everyone laughed, but it was because they were then thinking “yea, that’d be awesome,” which brought us into the topic of how society and the media portray sex.
We’re surrounded by it, and all types of media are saturated with it. Most popular media portrays it as the cool thing to do and uses it to sell their products, which in turn cheapens the relationship factor of sex, because people will move from partner to partner, which I’m firmly against, as stated above.
Also discussed how this was could be considered a power play by the males in the situation, as they basically forced the girl into it (how is a girl to turn down 5 hockey players? If she refused, they might’ve raped her). I think that they thought it was OK to use her because, historically at least, males have held the power in sexual relationships, and still do in some countries. So along those lines, they probably thought it was OK to use her like that, mainly because she was there to service them whenever they wished, no matter if she wanted to or not.
Also on the note of punishment, the 5 boys got expelled and the girl is on academic leave, which means she’s out of school for a while, but she’ll be able to go back. Why is it that the boys got expelled and she didn’t if she was a willing participant? Should the males be prosecuted for statutory rape, even though it was willing? Was it right to expel the boys because they broke the law? Would the 5 girls in my theoretical situation been expelled or still just the 1 guy?