I was at the library after school today and found two of my friends arguing about wether it was right or not to look at Porn when your dating someone. The guy said it was okay but she said it wasn’t. I agree with because I know if I found my Bf looking at porn I would be very upset, it would make me feel worthless. The guy says it doesn’t matter though because he doesn’tget anything from it. So, thoughts?
If both the guy and the girl agree to it, and both allow each other to look at it, then there’s really no problem with it. UNLESS it gets out of hand and starts to go too far.
I think it depends on the girl, really. Some girls don’t mind it. Hell, some of them even like it.
Morally speaking, I see nothing wrong with looking at porn. One of the main reasons is it’s just fantasy, so to speak. You wouldn’t hate a guy for fantasising…think of it as fantasising with a visual aid. 
On another note, you can bet anything that this thread will get a large number of views in a very short time. :hahaha;
Well there is no “right” or “wrong” regarding porn, since there’s so many opinions about it. Of course the generalization is there, the guy thinks its ok, the girl doesn’t. it all depends on how porn makes you feel, how often you need to look at it, and how you differentiate between porn and girlfriend.
if you think its wrong, then its wrong. It’s different for every couple. Some of us like looking at porn together. It’s like a romantic thing. A little bit of porn never hurt anyone, but it depends on if you’re in the right frame of mind.
And why would the guy look at porn if he didnt get off from it? What’s the point? That’s a pussy attempt in trying to explain why you look at porn.
If it isn’t okay with her, then you really shouldn’t.
If the guy watches porn, and the girl is so offended by it then go away. If it makes you feel worthless, then fine, feel worthless but don’t put up with it.
I’ve never met a guy that doesn’t watch porn, and if I have, then I’m positive I’ve never met a guy who doesn’t masturbate. Are you offended by your boyfriend masturbating? Because that’s basically all he’s doing.
It’s just porn man.
But no, I don’t think its fair to look at porn if you’ve got the real thing, reasons being it’s disloyal (kinda). You’re checking out other girls, yet if you did that in the street with your girl, then she wouldn’t like it, but if it’s porn she might let it slide.
Anyway, (most) porn costs money, buy a gift for her instead.
Edit: Wow, 4 people have replied since I started replying. Just shows how the topic works.
It is ok if:
- she doesnt mind
or…
- she doesnt know.
Yeah, it really depends on whether or not the girlfriend (or boyfriend, gasp!) is ok with it. No need to get jealous of pictures, I say, but not all people will agree. And thus my yaoi-viewing is limited. :too bad;
I don’t care if a guy looks at porn outside the relationship but if your dating I believe your basically cheating. Whats the differance from looking at porn then going out and getting a girl? I don’t really see any difference. I know my Bf doesn’t watch/ read porn and if he didi I would be a bit dissapointed in him.
I really don’t see what the fuss is about. Looking at a naked woman/man isn’t cheating on your girlfriend/boyfriend. I mean, it’s just there for… erm… entertainment.
Although I do see why someone could be pissy about it. Methinks that if they get pissy at you looking at a naked woman/man, methinks that they want you to look at them naked instead. =P
Whats the differance from looking at porn then going out and getting a girl? I don’t really see any difference.
Because the only thing you’re doing with porn is watching it. Cheating with someone is like dating another person, then having sex/making out with that person behind your girlfriends/boyfriends back.
Like I said, it’s just a fantasy with a visual aid. Would it be considered cheating to think about himself with Carmen Electra, or notice a pretty girl as she passes him on the street?
Because when you watch porn, you aren’t touching, getting or going out with a girl.
It’s a tendency for a chick to get hyped about her boyfriend who watches porn. Not all mind you (as Nessa demonstrates) but I believe it comes down to this. Some girls have self esteem issues. When they see their man looking at porn, they believe “ooh he doesnt want my body, he would rather have fantasies of beautiful women” and they get negative opinions about themselves, or try harder to please their boyfriends. Thats what’s so upsetting about it. Some people can get that, and some can’t.
I tend to hold cheating in a different way than most people. But that’s just me. I enjoy porn, Weiila knows it, and while she wouldn’t watch it (I’m working on that), she doesn’t mind me…
BEsides, she knows I’d take her to porn any day.
In Star’s case, there’s another point…where in real life could you find a catgirl?
As nice it would be, it ain’t gonna happen. Once again, fantasy. It’s pretty much that reason that I prefer hentai to “real” porn…more of a fantasy element.
That, and I have a thing for FF girls. ^_^;
Quoting Herr Doktor Sigmund Freud, the human being has desire as one of its motivations. The excessive repression of certain impulses can lead to intense frustration, unless proper ways of venting them are found.
Now, I have absolutely no experience on this particular subject being discussed here, but my guess would be that some guys or girls who have a significant other might still feel insecure about going a few steps further. If you add that to the natural curiosity that comes with age, and the frustration of self-restraint, then I suppose those actions would be understandable. I can merely speculate that the viewing of such material could be a source of ideas for later, a way of redirecting desires one is not comfortable with yet, or a way of venting some of the frustration of not being able to do certain things yet. Maybe they use that material to contain some of their anxiety.
I think that instead of getting jealous of that material, significant others should try to understand the motivation that leads to its viewing. Who knows, maybe something good will come out of it. Discussing the matter could potentially help both parts get over certain fears.
As I said, I am merely speculating. This is not one of the areas I focus on.
(Hmmm… maybe taking Psychology will be better than I thought…)
Man…I got ripped off…
If she/he doesn’t know it then you should at least discuss the issue with them and see how they feel. This is something that varies from person to person and you really need to just talk to them about it.
Don’t rub it in. =(
Yeah, that’s a good way of putting it. I mean, pretty much the whole purpose of porn is a masturbatory aid, that’s all fine and dandy. Your boy/girl friend looking at porn isn’t a result of any physical lack on your part. If I may quote Seinfeld…
“It’s different for a man, we HAVE to do it, it’s part of our lifestyle…like…shaving.”