… because I’m going to do one of those things here that I didn’t ever want to do.
I know I haven’t told a lot of people about this, but my guy was in the hospital back in August having problems with numbness in his arm and leg. He was there for a week, and the diagnosis went from brain tumors at the beginning to a discharge with multiple sclerosis. So, we thought things were going to be not so great, but still manageable. We talked after he got out of the hospital, and then over two weeks went by where I didn’t hear from him, even though I kept trying to reach him. I finally got an e-mail from him (with much poorer typing than typical) that said he had to be rushed back to the hospital for a week because his symptoms got worse and that he was just discharged again with plans for different MS treatments. Also, his mom came up from out of state to help take care of things for him.
After that, I haven’t heard anything for over a month - every attempt I made to reach him was ignored. I found out on Monday from someone else that he had been back to the hospital at least one more time and that his symptoms had gotten much worse; now his speech is very slurred. Then, I found out today from a customer that he is in the hospital again and that he is in a coma. Before the coma, he couldn’t even get out of bed or pick his head up. The doctors are running more tests trying to figure out what this is; now they aren’t sure it’s MS at all as he didn’t respond to any of the treatments. A possibility is that he has an infection of some sort, but who knows now?
I’ve been worried sick over him for over two months - he’s physically the strongest person I’ve ever met, and to know something undetermined is tearing his body apart like this in such a short time is killing me. I’ve known him for six years, and we’ve cared about each other like this for so long, and we were finally taking our relationship to another level now that work wasn’t an obstacle… we’re both being cheated, him MUCH moreso than me. I know life isn’t fair - I have absolutely no need for reminders like that.
I don’t like pouring out painful feelings here; I feel like it’s a part of my life that people I only know online shouldn’t have to know. It isn’t all just sunshine and happy little trees though, right? Basically, if you feel like it, PLEASE pray for him, light a candle for him, do whatever crazy thing you do when you want something to happen that you need so badly. My optimism and my practicality are at war now, and I want him to make it through this.
So, now I’ve been Debbie Downer. That sucks, right? If you hope even just a little for things to get better here, it would mean so much to me.