Well, Val, this sounds like something I argue about with my dayd sometimes, though not NEARLY as much as I used to. I used to think that I hated him, but now I get along with him pretty well. There are still things I don’t agree with him on, like how I NEED to play basketball, or NEED to do certain chores everyday. I mean, it’s been about 3 years since I’ve consistently enjoyed playing basketball, but I still play it anyways, because I know if I didn’t, there would be so much family chaos, the 2 hours a week would be worth skipping all of that. Just stay out of his way as much as you can, do your own thing. When he asks you to do something, say yes, in as few words as possible, and just do it. Then go back to what you were doing before. I know that it may not work as well for you as it did for me, but this is just my advice.
Rage is part of our nature. All you need to do is make sure it doesn’t poison you.
Nobody is judging you, and you are free to trust the people here or not, but remember that we’re willing to help. Even though there is little we can do, we can give you our honest advice.
In the past, due to several incidents I won’t bother mentioning right now, I was furious most of the time. I felt like tearing someone apart.
I know the feeling of blind rage, the kind that burns inside and wants to burst out, the kind that almost made me explode. Although it’s not something I’d want to feel again, I understand your motives for being so angry.
But there’s something you have to ask yourself. Is that rage worth ruining your future?
Personally, as someone concerned with your situation, I think you should be careful with that rage.
If there’s no way of improving things with your father, then I suggest that you ignore him, get him off your mind.
As for the rest, as I’ve said, nobody is forcing you to trust us, but if you decide to do so, then we will be better prepared to help. Even though there isn’t much I can do, you have my understanding and sympathy.
Trying to ignore a problem will never solve anything I’m afraid, it’s when facing them that we can break them down and walk away proudly. I hope that you manage to sort things out with your dad, Val, whatever happens we are behind you when you need us.
its been 2 years since my last eye contact with my dad… and well… i like things juuuuuus fine…
but you being a girl and all… i think u better patch up,…because i can clearly see youre not beyond your emotions…
How does being a girl relate to having problems with her father? Those types of issues occur regardless of whether a son or daughter is involved.
Originally posted by Evangelion
How does being a girl relate to having problems with her father? Those types of issues occur regardless of whether a son or daughter is involved.
Read the lyrics of sing for the moment by eminem… guys usually tend to react different from girls…
Originally posted by sephiroth_eternal
Read the lyrics of sing for the moment by eminem… guys usually tend to react different from girls…
Not in situations like those. Val went running, so you’re saying she should have sat down and cried or made amends?
I’m not going to read a song that I’m already familiar with, thank you, a girl has as much chance as smashing her father in the face as a guy might do. There are no gender specific roles when it comes to family issues, it all comes down the to individual not because you’re male or female. Don’t base an Eminem song on reality.
I dont think a guy wouldve gone running cuz his fathers being an asshole… :runaway:
No offence Val… all i am saying is… ignoring is sometimes the perfect solution…
unless its really bothering you and you feel you cant go on without patching stuff up…
oh and Eva… I think eminem’s song WAS BASED on everyday situations in america…
ok well… me bored of topic… so stop arguing already…:boring:
well, alteast you agree with me on the BS thing… 
Originally posted by sephiroth_eternal
[b]I dont think a guy wouldve gone running cuz his fathers being an asshole… :runaway:No offence Val… all i am saying is… ignoring is sometimes the perfect solution…
unless its really bothering you and you feel you cant go on without patching stuff up…
oh and Eva… I think eminem’s song WAS BASED on everyday situations in america…
ok well… me bored of topic… so stop arguing already…:boring: [/b]
You don’t think a guy would have done that. Ah yes since they are so masculine, no guy would have done that. Damn us girls for being petty and whiney thus running away from our problems 
Judging from what I usually read about things like this from Val she will not ignore her problem, nor is ignoring the best solution for someone who is constantly battling with their father.
And yes, Eminem’s song was based on HIS point of view and how kids get influenced by his parents. That has nothing to do with her situation. As far as I know her dad isn’t mad at her for listening to Eminem and changing her lifestyle. That was one example anyways, so you shouldn’t base that on thousands of kids who have problems with their parents. Different people react in different ways.
A lot of people don’t like their father, I’d say just deal with it untill you go to college.
Evangelion, back off. Damn, any comment about any DIFFERENCES, good or bad, of women, and suddenly, you’re a chauvinist. Sephiroth_eternal didn’t mean anything offensive with his statement, and the truth is, he is kinda right. As a whole, women tend to react differently from men, as a whole. This is brought on by more than just upbringing, too. Different hormones tend to make males more aggressive, and women less so. Of course, that being said, in strong willed people, thoughts can overrule those hormones.
Why back off? I found his statement incredibly biased “This is what happened to me but because you’re a girl you should do this and this”. I didn’t hint at chauvanism any time. I just didn’t like his whole attitude on the matter that just because Val is a girl she is prone to react differently and she should ignore her father “just because”. So basically he’s saying that if any guy reacted the same way she did, he’s not normal or something because he never stood up to his father?
Of course guys and girls will react differently to certain circumstances but the way he said it was one sided. I didn’t take any offense, I was offering more information on the matter, one that I saw was completely false since when I get into heated arguements with my parents I don’t feel like “ignoring them” or “running away” from them, I feel like physically hitting them. Does that make me go against his stats? Yes.
You know, I don’t see why running would be a typically male/female solution in any way… I would personally never think of running for any other reason that being chased. I hate running.
when my step dad is flipping at me I have to raise my voice because if I don’t he gets this whole I’m the one in power and my voice is gods issue. I don’t start swearing and calling him names though although I do sometimes call him names when I clearly explain something and he doesn’t grasp it. Did I ever mention he’s a litlle slow?
Eva, youre getting annoying… go away. oh and by the way, It’s STILL gonna be a man’s world even if you females go around socking your parents to prove you are our equals. p:unch::
Do i sound like a chauvinist now?
Ah yes enganging in an arguement and now backing out by getting personal. How mature. I stated what I didn’t like about your opinion and if I’m truely getting annoying, how about you haul ass out of this thread and don’t read what I have to say. Fair enough?
Originally posted by Evangelion
Ah yes enganging in an arguement and now backing out by getting personal. How mature. I stated what I didn’t like about your opinion and if I’m truely getting annoying, how about you haul ass out of this thread and don’t read what I have to say. Fair enough?
YEAH SURe…it was ME who started the arguement now…?my my… how fast the wind changes direction…
look kid… instead of staying up all day/night waiting to have the last laugh in this ‘argument’, go watch teletubbies or something… i said what i said to Val and not you… you are just something that popped up outta nowhere and started bickering… so please, i am asking politely… go away…shoo fly! get out the way…!
jumps up and down I never said YOU started it! God it was a good arguement, a friendly one until you started spewing that bullshit. And don’t call me kid you fucking moron, nothing I even said was harsh. Go repair your shattered ego and take your own advice.
<img src=“http://www.rpgclassics.com/staff/tenchimaru/td.gif”> This reinforces my belief that 99% of all people with Sephiroth in their nicks are idiots.
Okay, I’d say this is enough. The next Mod or Admin to see this, close this thread. it will onyl go downhill from here.