I’ll first address the fact that this is my first post. Yes, I’m a member of this community. However, due to the responses I may recieve from people if they knew who I really was, I’ve decided to use this alias to ask this question:
My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for about 3 months now and there is a bit of a problem when it comes to size. You see, were both 21 years old yet she is the first woman I’ve been with to actually tell me that I’m “too big” for her. What I mean by this is not about width, but length. I’ve been with 4 partners before her, all of which had told me I was not the largest that they’d been with. I’ve been told that I am above average in my size of 7-8 inches but never believed it due to the previous ex’s constant belittlement. My current girlfriend and I, however, seem to have a reoccuring problem of me going too deep. The problem, funny as it may seem, lies in how she acts. You see, she’ll often times start screaming out “harder” and “deeper” and beg for me to go all the way in… When I do, though, she lets out a cry of pain. I realize it hurts her and try to stop, yet she keeps going. She proclaims that the good outweighs the bad and she loves it while its happening… However, afterwards, she is in near intollerable pain. The other issue is that when she is on top, she simply does not restrain herself. This causes serious issues because I’m unable to prevent any of the penetration.
My question is this… How uncommon is this? Would anyone know of some sort of doughnut style devices that can be worn at the base of the penis to keep from going all the way in?
I’d really prefer mature responses as I was not looking to make a joke of this. It is a serious concern that I have. Our relationship, emotionally, is outstanding. I just want to make sure that she is satisfied and I’m not hurting her.
I’m very curious as to why so many people’s first natural response to a relationship problem is to post about it on a forum from a site dedicated to role-playing games. I mean, is it logical to assume that people who post here can help you better than some of your closer non-internet friends? Maybe it’s because people on the internet are so detatched that their advice can be assumed to be honest? But really, can they even really understand your situation, much less help it in any way with written words? Or maybe, there are so many people here who are <i>experts</i> in this sort of thing that this couldn’t be solved by sending PMs to a few individuals? Does this forum have a reputation for being able to solve these kinds of problems?
Everything named is normal. Girls like strong intense experiences. The only thing I’d be leery of is the “intolerable” pain. If she’s bleeding or is impaired aftwards, there’s cause for concern. If not, don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.
As a sidenote, being an administrator with IP search powers is hilarious.
I just searched penis donut and yeah there’s donuts you can buy. I think they’re normally used for masturbating, but you could probably buy a few and stack em on!
Is she new at this? Believe it or not, I’m seriously asking. It sounds like she needs to find a balance there, and finding it tends to come along with more experience. edit - Simply responding to your question, it sounds like she’s satisfied and that the way you conduct yourself isn’t what hurts.
Vicki: some girls are pretty extreme nevertheless. However, a girl who hasn’t experienced that before might not necessarily know why she should restrain herself. But the thing is , after the first time, she chooses to hurt herself, so its up to her what she does afterwards.
