People always say “I’ve never felt like this before” or “What I feel for him/her, I have never felt for anyone else” when they fall in love for someone. And for all you’ve said, this is your first date. If you are sensible, you won’t create much expectations about it.
As for online relationships not always working: when you only know someone online, you only see the side they want to show you. Offline, you see the person in a more complete spectrum. It gets harder to hide unnatractive traits. If, as you said, nobody where you live likes you, yet you can get a date online, then I think you are using the net as a mask to hide what made you unnatractive for people in your city.
Sorry if I put you down. I still wish you good luck, though.
Originally posted by Eden looks at hades for no reason and coughs
Originally posted by Epicgamer Hades isn’t even in a relationship and he’s still whipped
Why do you even bother opening your mouth sometimes? I’m allowed to be in a relationship without being “whipped” kiddos. Got it? And if an alternate term for “whipped” is “Extremely loyal” then I’m fucking proud to be “whipped.”
Originally posted by Ren
[b]People always say “I’ve never felt like this before” or “What I feel for him/her, I have never felt for anyone else” when they fall in love for someone. And for all you’ve said, this is your first date. If you are sensible, you won’t create much expectations about it.
As for online relationships not always working: when you only know someone online, you only see the side they want to show you. Offline, you see the person in a more complete spectrum. It gets harder to hide unnatractive traits. If, as you said, nobody where you live likes you, yet you can get a date online, then I think you are using the net as a mask to hide what made you unnatractive for people in your city.
Sorry if I put you down. I still wish you good luck, though. [/b]
I know what you’re gettin at, but luckily, I have a friend who knows this girl(he’s friends with her bro) so I kinda know what she’s like offline :P.
And I also know waht you’re gettin at with the feelings bit, but I was in a diff online relationship(the girl ripped me apart…not gonna get into that) and I didn’t feel this way towards her, and I thought I had loved her, so…yeah…
Am I the only one who doesn’t find distance all that painful? I just got home from a visit to my boyfriend (I hate that word…) and I’m as fine as ever. Then again, I’ve always had an easy time simply accepting that things are the way they are. He lives in England, by the way.
I guess in general, online relationships can be difficult, but if you know that you’ve met the right girl then you go for it, even if things don’t work out in the end. If you end up giving up the relationship because of what other people say, whether they’re your parents, other members of your family or your friends, you’d regret it. Whatever you do, make sure you’re not pressured into it and it’s your decision, no-one elses.
As cold and betraying as it might sound for you to do this, I agree with Manus: Always have a backup plan.
Plus, I found this to be absolutely true and evident: Nothing EVER happens how you plan it to be. If you think of each and every way it can happen, something else will happen that’ll make everything else go to shit.
So my personal advice is…just go with the flow…I guess.
What Ren says is completely true. Also the proud to be whipped thing, hell yeah. Both parties can be “whipped” and still love each other/ extremely trusting with each other. It’s a good thing.
Then again I have a fairy tale relationship with my boyfriend, that’s why I always piss and moan if I can’t see him and when we do, and talk things get so mushy I’d be embarrassed to use any kind of example here. I have problems accepting distance unlike Jing (envious >.>) and apparently like Kaiok. Must…have…Prince Charming…
It’ll be the end of the world in underwear, in Saint Never’s day before I ever get caught in one of those. I don’t care if I sound bitter or whatever, but I don’t want to fall in that kind of trap.
Can you really love someone if all you’ve done is typed to them?
Why not try getting her phone number or something? Or just go for it and meet her. [/b]
Yes you can, but it all depends on your version of the word “love”. By interacting with strangers on the internet, you are bearing your personality and connecting through a medium which allows you to become close to someone else, whereas offline, you might not due to some physical preference. The net is a VERY friendly but frightening place for love to happen, because it takes serious effort to keep such a one sided “relationship” going. Most people only engage in them for amusement (and other reasons, which any idiot can figure out) but maybe 5 % of the time they work out. You don’t need to worry about being embarrassed because all parties can’t see one another so the atmosphere is really relaxed and casual, and it’s much easier to feel and say things than it is face to face (which is the downfall to most OL’s)
Although, your question could be worded as “Can you really care and bond with someone if all you’ve done is typed to them?” Short answer- I’m talking about friendship. Sure an OL requires more work, but having a friend online is the same thing. It’s obvious a lot of people in RPGC are buddies with many others, and if you can become good friends with someone on the net, why can’t you love someone as well?
This is the sociology me speaking. You know, the part of me fascinated in how the human race works. Yes, forgive me if I sound too almighty or something.
EDIT: And Manus, I know you’re brooding but one month is not nearly enough time to know somebody, especially on the net. There is such a thing as being too vulnerable.
There’s a girl in my writer’s course who came here from southern USA to marry a man she’d met on the internet, and they’re happily living together And they’re doing just fine.
All relationships are hard in some way, that’s just the way it is. I’ve been in an online one for one and half a year soon, and we’re just fine. Though we hafta do something about the distance at some point, it’ll be when it’ll be possible.
But to be honest, theres one HUGE problem with online relationships: as the anonymity(sp?) allws you to be yourself, it allows you to be what you want to be, and completely fabricate yourself. An avatar if you will.
Every relationship has it’s problems though, online or not. I’m fine with the distance, but it does gnaw at me. I want to be with her, after all. I’m the kind of person who needs to be touched and kissed.
Ah well, one can dream, and do something about it. Doe sJing still want to hurt me for not visiting though?
Originally posted by Devillion Wow. I guess i just never considered the fact that, since you cant see them you can only love them for who they are, and not their body.
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While you can get to know people online for who they ‘really’ are and swear not to care what they look like, in reality mosts people do, and no matter how much ‘love’ you have for the person you’re talking to, you feel like moving to Canada to get away from them. Along with that, faking your personality over the internet is so much easier then in real life, and there is no promise that the nice guy you met online isn’t really a drunken wife abuser in real life. Then again though, if you compare this to reality, the same thing goes to say with just a few mild modifications. There really isn’t a better, or a worse, just diffrent rules… so to speak.
With that in mind, I would still never discurage people from getting to know, even ‘loving’ someone, online. Just don’t take everything on here so seriously
It’s rare when online relationships last more than a week unless they’re really serious. Usually one person won’t be online, then the other won’t be online, and it continues until both people forget about each other.
EDIT: That’s not ALWAYS the case, I was just giving an example.
Having an online relationship isn’t something to brag about fifty times a day. They’ll chew you up and spit you out, and you’ll be lucky if you don’t lose your sanity. I rest my case.
I run away from that stuff as if it was my sister’s orc face.
Hades isn’t even in a relationship and he’s still whipped 
And they’re doing just fine.