First off, you know my brother right? 6 ft, jerk who only gives a damn for himself? >_< Well, news on him about last August his lung collasped and now, a year later the doctor’s checked him again. Appearently his heart was damaged after that. Not too serious, but the doctors want to keep an eye on him…
well, anyways… about a couple of days ago, we had a huge fight… nothing physical just yelling a insluting blah blah blah. Things has gotten worse and I don’t think i can stand another day in this house with him acting like he’s god or something… :fungah:
To top it all up, the friends who were once my friends decided that I had to obey their rules and do what they want.
Well, I hope everything’ll be ok. Just try to cheer up. Do stuff you enjoy. We may not know each other, but I’m always there for anyone when they’re down.
Sorry about your brother. I don’t recall you posting about him before. Maybe he acts like that because of what’s wrong with him. Maybe you should also be upfront with how you feel.
And about your friends…fuck em. No one has the right to tell you what to do. You seem like a very easy pushover, Chris, one to be taken control of easily online and offline. Just walk away from your friends. Be a lonewolf for awhile and don’t listen to what they say. They don’t really know anything, and they certainly have no right to dictate their thoughts to you. I don’t see why you’re so stressed about this, because it’s so easy and quick to just seperate yourself from people like this. Though I’m biased because I’m not afraid to be by myself in school, and I honestly do not care to stand alone. Most people cannot do that, but I’d advise you to take some time for yourself till you get your shit together. Yeah I have some experience in friends being dickheads hence the reason I’m going on and on and on. Just leave them.
I remember you mentioning your brothers poor health state, but noting more.
Anyway, like Rune said, just find something that you like doing, and do it. That is what I always do, when my older sister is getting on my case, about the tiniest little things.
As for the whole friends situation, ditch them. Either hang by yourself for a while (I do it all the time, I prefer to be alone, than to be with idiots), or if you don’t like that idea, find someone who you get along with, and see if you can hang with them, until your friends get their acts together.
Anyway, I hope things get better soon, and remember, if they don’t you always have us on here. We’ll always be your friends.
Y’know, Chris, Sin’s right. You can’t just confide all of your problems to a bunch of people over the Internet who you don’t even know. Take care of your own problems, and you’ll get more self confidence. We can’t act as your mentors forever.
Yay Sin, look down on her for being upset and pissed off at her brother whilst at the same time worrying about his collapsed lung + heart problems. Good advice nonetheless but you don’t have to be so cold.
Originally posted by Sinistral I reiterate you need to grow a backbone and be yourself and not depend upon others for a sense of security and identity.
That’s akin telling someone with MPD to just ignore the voices in their head, or to try to heal a cripple by telling them to just get up and walk. The solution provided is prohibited by the problem itself. In a case like this, moral support from others is a necessity for getting past the problem, just like medication/therapy for the person with MPD, or Physical Therapy and Prostetic Limbs for the cripple are necessary. To mock someone for needing these aids to get past their problem is a sign of ignorance towards the problem.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to talk to people about what’s bothering you or bitch about something that goes badly. When I rant, I rant a lot. However, the difference lies in how you react to adversity. If people push you around and you do nothing about it, all that will keep happening is you being pushed around: by your brother, by your parents, by your “friends”. Friends don’t make you do what they want you to do. Friends look out for you and help you out in times of need and tell you that you fucked up when you did geniuenly fuck up and not just when they believe that what you’re doing is bad because it goes against social standards set up by a contrived, bland and faceless society.
What doesn’t help is to go to a message board where everyone works real hard on being nice and sweet to everyone else by maintaining a politicial correctness. In life, you have to confront issues. What you have done is led yourself be tossed around by your issues and thus it causes you stress. You come to us and you act weird. You want affection and attention. Then you eventually open up because you’re feeling weird about how everything happened and you want everyone to support you through your time of distress. That isn’t a productive way of going through life. If you want your problems to go away, you have to act on them instead of running to the nearest source of comfort. People who are happy and succeed are people that bite the bullet for a second to take the harder path which presents itself to them.
Example: if you’re brother’s a piece of shit, dissociate yourself from your brother. “oh but he’s my brother”. Yeah, well, I have a piece of shit for a sister that thinks she’s god’s gift to the world and she’s dropped out of 6 different university programs, some of them multiple times, while being one of the least attractive, bitchy, most unpleasant condescending excuses for a reproductive organism on this planet. “Oh but she’s your sister”. SO WHAT? Family is family. It is there to help you, not hurt you and respect the choices which you choose to make in your life. Anything otherwise is not family.
Wait a second…6 ft…thinks only about himself…if not for the health problems, and possible age difference, your brother could easily pass for mine!
Anyway, Sin’s right here. You’re a good person, from what I can tell, but you can’t let people walk over you. Stand up to them. Forget about your brother’s health problems; tell him how big a jerk he is. Forget about the people who you once called “friends”; the moment they try to take over your life, they stop becoming your friends and turn into your masters.
Originally posted by Green Mage That’s akin telling someone with MPD to just ignore the voices in their head, or to try to heal a cripple by telling them to just get up and walk. The solution provided is prohibited by the problem itself. In a case like this, moral support from others is a necessity for getting past the problem, just like medication/therapy for the person with MPD, or Physical Therapy and Prostetic Limbs for the cripple are necessary. To mock someone for needing these aids to get past their problem is a sign of ignorance twoards the problem.
First of all, schizophrenics have a biological basis for their disease. This is not a schizophrenic, this is someone who let’s herself be the victim. The only way to help people who have problems like she does is to let them help themselves and not give them a recourse otherwise. The only way a person will change is if that person chooses to change and realize what is going on. Your example is irrelevant because you’re talking about a disorder which doesn’t work the same way.
I remember you mentioning your brothers poor health state, but noting more.