Whether or not you think a person is attractive is opinion. Whether or not you think it’s right or wrong to base your sexual/relational decisions on physicality is an issue of morality, and if you’re going to argue that morality is somehow relative or subjective, then you’re the one not contributing anything to the discussion. Saying that, I realize I might have overemphasized my argument that people always look toward physicality first. While I think that’s true, I think what the real argument here is whether or not holding physicality strongly in relation to other attributes such as personality or religion or whatever is shallow. I think we can all agree we first see the physical, but for some of us that might not be as important, so as we learn more about a person we might change our mind. I think this is a truism also. But, when you get down to the meat of what one considers important in a relationship, after all things have been considered then is it right to be so shallow?
I still think this is fine. I happen to feel that physical attraction is important to me, even years into a relationship. Regardless of how I feel towards a person, I have to be able to look them in the eye and tell them I think they are beautiful, and a large part of that for me involves keeping up outward appearances. I don’t think it’s right for anyone to tell you otherwise, because as I said this is an issue of morality, not opinion. If you feel that my, or anyone else’s, dependence on physical attraction is shallow, then I think you’ve got some other issues going on, be it jealousy, spite, or whatever.
But then there is always an issue of chaos involved. Sometimes people are just lucky I suppose, and end up with someone they, or others, might consider above them. Nor does it mean that a person who does not feel strongly about physical attraction can end up with a physically attractive person. Hell, anything can happen.