Didn’t we call these people “swingers” once upon a time? Or is that term too loaded now?
I can see why guys would like it. After all, if our instincts didn’t push us to seek variety in our sex lives, one porn mag would last forever. I assume there are girls who want variety just as bad, or perhaps think that they’ll be able to keep their partner around if they allow them to have sex with someone else. I doubt that’ll work. People have a tendency to look for some sort of missing secret ingredient that will <i>finally</i> make them happy. For these people it’s more sex with more partners. Even if your partner understands and approves of it, you’ll still just want more.
Note that I didn’t come up with that by myself. I’m not that wise.
Anyway, people can get possessive of their partners, even if they’re just LOL FUCKBUDDIES. That leads to trouble. And trouble in the harem is the worst kind ~_^
So yeah. They want to whore around, so they can have a “relationship” without being “demanding” or “trapped.” It’s bullshit. I personally wouldn’t go for it; I get into things for the long haul.
I’m single… ;_;
ahem
I was reading Tim Allen’s <i>Don’t Stand too Close to a Naked Man</i> when I found a wonderful heuristic for this sort of thing, in an anecdote where someone propositions Tim at a party. He says to her, “It’s not about whether or not I want to sleep with you, it’s if I want to <i>wake up</i> with you.” That basically crystalized my approach. I’ve asked myself that question consistently, and if the answer’s no (and it usually is) I do nothing. Sex is not enough, though I’d like that as well, please.
Not to mention there are a mere handful of females I’ve met in my 21 years in this mortal coil that I have a reasonable amount in common with; maybe two that I could see without spending a fortune on travel (no offense to y’all ladies I met at the RPGCali Meet, you’re all quite charming). I’m friends with all of them, and pursuing them romantically seems sort of…<i>wrong</i> to me.
It would be a lie to say I hadn’t considered any and all of them sexually; men do that wether we want to or not. Hell, I find myself looking at women when I’m not even thinking about them; my eyes just kind of follow them on their own. I try my best to curb that impulse, but occasionally my self-control slips.
Now that I’ve got the longest post in the thread, I can retire, my manhood secure.