My best friend(Kevin) broke up with his girlfriend six months ago and well, life as he knew it, came to stand still. He couldnt do anything… his grades in college took a nosedive, so did his social life… basically he just made a mess out of everything…
Then one fine day came along another female… she helped him get over his ex, and yadda yadda yadda… gave him the care/affection/healing or whatever he needed to repair himself… everything was starting to fall in to place from him again… and ahem… he’s fallen for the new girl (the one that helped him get over his ex…)
Here’s the biggie… HE realized a couple of days ago that he’s in Love with her and told her so. However, she told him that shes recently been seeing this other guy and she was in love with him and hence, a relationship with Kev was outta the question…
It’s $!@#@#%@$% on earth for him again… the same thing that happened before Miss. I-will-heal-ur-broken-heart walked into his life is happening again… poor guy’s dying again… :fungah:
He’s in his final year of college and his final exams are up in a week… at this rate he’ll prbably screw up big time(He’ll have to repeat a year if this happens)
<phew>… I wanna help him before its too late… what should i do???
(No, I am not gonna go and post this at ivillage or Dr.Love… and no, this is not an excerpt from some cheesy soap opera…)
SE: Well, to tell you the truth, there isn’t too much you can do other than support him, drag him out to go places to do stuff, and try to help him study for finals. It probably won’t be easy considering his circumstances, but just because he got dumped twice doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world, it simply means he hasn’t found the right girl yet.
Here’s the biggie… HE realized a couple of days ago that he’s in Love with her and told her so but She told him that shes recently been seeing this other guy and the both of them are romancing their way outta the world and hence, A relationship with Kev was outta the question…
Tell me I’m not the only one who thinks this is the motherfcuking stupidest reason for breaking up EVER.
Originally posted by sephiroth_eternal Sorry hades. I kind phrased the whole thing in a hurry. Anyway, I edited it and i think it makes better sense now.
It doesn’t. I already took into account that they were in love, which seems to be all that you added. If instead of “recently” you put “currently” as in, she is right now, that’d make a huge difference. But the way you phrased it was saying they were with each other both as rebound. Which is a stupid reason to not be together for good if they want it.
If what you meant is that she’s at the moment seeing someone else who she loves, then yeah, that’s a hindrance. Sorry for misinterpreting if I did.
I’m kidding. Yes there’s nothing you can really do. You can support him, make him see how he needs to get his shit together, but you can only do so much before they reject your help and see it as a time waster (for example, anyone carryign a torch for someone is more apt to keep doing so and to cry about it, rather than move on. If you try to make said person see this they may see you as trying to be the enemy)
Sometimes they only thing you can do is wait until they fall low enough to realize what they’re doing to theirselves. But still, sometimes they might not even realize and it’s dangerous to let them suffer.
<img src=“http://www.rpgclassics.com/staff/tenchimaru/td.gif”> Cyanide cures all. In case of no cyanide, just leave him. Odds are that he’ll get more stressed out if you try to help him. If he can’t figure out that he should study for his finals, well, back to the cyanide.
Originally posted by Sorcerer Take him to a nudie bar, and pay some stripper to rub her tits in his face. He’ll feel better in a few hours.
In case you’re actually naive enough to accept this as a solution, here’s some advice: Don’t.
Originally posted by Hades Shinigami CC, not everyone goes around angsting for attention like you love to do.
I don’t go angsting for love anymore (no comment on the attention thing <<;). I actually fell in love, which is why I realize when most people talk about falling in love they are bullshitting themselves. I would very much like to be optimistic, but the way he is talking makes me believe that it is bullshit.