Some people might be offended by this topic, as it contains subject matter which is usually not spoken about in public. This topic is about sex and pregnancy. If you haven’t anything suggestive to say, please say nothing.
Some of you might find this topic disgusting, but I have to post it. I haven’t anywhere else reliable and safe to talk to. If I talk to my doctor, he will inform my parents. If I tell my parents, I will move away. Girlfriend requested not to tell her parents, and she cannot ask her doctor for the same reason I cannot to mine.
I would appreciate if a mod didn’t lock this thread saying something like “ask your mother, she’d know this stuff”, like a previous related thread I made.
I have a few questions, of which I need a truthful and unbiased answer. To me, and my partner (girlfriend), this is a major life-changing thing.
On Saturday, I had my girlfriend come to my house and sleep over so we can chill for some time together. There was a school dance the previous day. We both went (and it sucked).
We decided that on that Saturday, we’d have sex. I don’t know how else to word it. We ‘decided’. I guess it’s not really a decision one must think about, it’s more of a get-to-that mood kind of thing. We’ve had sex before. Much before. But this time was different.
We walked around the mall complex near my house, looking for a public washroom to “use”. Since we obviously cannot do it at my own house. My parents are 100% catholic/christian, and against sex totally. They said if we had sex, I’d might not see my girlfriend ever again. Even worse, they said if my girlfriend gets pregnant, I will have to move away to another province, and never see her, or my child ever again.
We use a male condom (obviously), and my girlfriend has been on a birth-control patch for about 4 months now (Ortho Evra; name of patch). The failure rate for a condom is about 3 in 100 times. The failure rate of the contraceptive patch is 0.1 in 100 times. Together, it should be 0.03~ in 100 times for failure rate if we use both; which we did.
We ended up using a public washroom in a fast food place (KFC). This isn’t abnormal. We’ve done it in worse situations before. So don’t say that it’s disgusting, because to you it might, but to me it’s okay.
We finished up much later, and disposed of the condom. We left, but about half-way back home, my girlfriend said she felt a, and I quote, “coldness near her crotchal region. Inside, and around”.
To my knowledge, semen is stored in the testicles at a fairly cold temperature (I don’t know for sure), but when it’s ejected, it passes through the penis, and it ‘warms up’, to pretty fucking warm. She thought the condom had broke.
We went back to my house, and I ‘checked her’. I did so by, well, actually taking a look inside. I was destroyed to the sight of a white gel-like substance.
To my knowledge, vaginal mucus is usually present in the vagina at all times, and is also white and gel-like. The contraceptive patch increases the amount of vaginal mucus. So it is possible that it was not semen, but in fact vaginal mucus.
But, there is the slight chance it is not. The next day, she said she felt nausious (sp?), and had a stomach ache; and even today, same thing. I was wondering if this is related.
How likely is my girlfriend to become pregnant? 0.03% if the condom did break. 0% if the condom did not break. I have a feeling that it did not in fact break, but the white substance, and the cold feeling have to contribute to my worry.
I need to ask of you (female posters) a personal question, and feel free to PM me with the answer if unsure about posting it in the open, but: if you’ve had sex before (unprotected), what temperature did the semen feel like?
I cannot stress the urgence of my concern. Hopefully, my answers will be answered before this thread is locked, if it is locked. I’m hoping it won’t.
Yeah, this is important.
